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Ten Techniques to Build Rapport

We can all fight against loneliness by engaging in random acts of kindness.

— Gail Honeyman.

Hello guys, in life no one lives alone, and no one can live alone. In this TIL (Today I Learned) we will discuss the things I’ve learned when trying to socialize with other people building rapport and connections.

  1. Establish artificial time constraints. Allow the potential source to feel that there is an end in sight.
  2. Remember non-verbals. Ensure that both your body language and voice are nonthreatening.
  3. Speak slower. Do not oversell and talk too fast. You lose credibility quickly and appear too strong and threatening.
  4. Have a sympathy or assistance theme. Human beings want to provide assistance and help. It also appeals to their ego that they may know more than you.
  5. Suspend your ego. This probably represents the hardest technique but, without a doubt, is the most effective. Do not build yourself up—build someone else up, and you will have strong rapport.
  6. Validate others. Human beings crave feeling connected and accepted. Validation feeds this need, and few offer it. Be the great validator and have instant, valuable rapport.
  7. Ask “how, when, and why” questions. When you want to dig deep and make a connection, asking these questions serves as the safest, most effective way. People will tell you what they are willing to talk about.
  8. Connect using quid pro quo. Some people are more guarded than others. Allow them to feel comfortable by sharing a little about yourself if needed. Do not overdo it.
  9. Give gifts (reciprocal altruism). Human beings reciprocate gifts given. Give a gift, either intangible or material, and seek a conversation and rapport in return.
  10. Manage expectations. Avoid feeling and embodying disappointment by ensuring that your methods focus on benefiting the targeted individual, not you. Ultimately, you will win, but your mind-set needs to focus on the other person.

Humans will be humans and humans are very dependent creature. That’s all for it thanks for reading. Follow me on my social media accounts and also on my podcasts.

By Edward Fitz Abucay

"How long is forever?"

I'm a software engineer with a passion for innovating and creating products, especially for startups in the web3 and blockchain space. I'm always excited to learn and work with new technologies, and I'm committed to delivering high-quality solutions that meet the needs of my clients or users.

In my free time, I enjoy listening to music of all genres, but classical music holds a special place in my heart. I find it both inspiring and calming, and it helps me to stay focused and creative. I'm also an avid reader of books and manga, and I enjoy discovering new authors and stories.

As a software engineer, I have a strong technical background with experience in various programming languages, frameworks, and tools. I'm always striving to improve my skills and stay up-to-date with the latest trends and best practices. I love working with startups, especially those in the web3 and blockchain space, because I believe that these technologies have the potential to revolutionize the way we live and work.

Overall, I'm a dedicated and driven individual with a wide range of interests and skills. I believe that my passion for software engineering, combined with my love of music and reading, makes me a well-rounded and adaptable professional.

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